Back to the 5 Love Languages

Years back, a friend of mine lent me a book by Gary Chapman on the 5 Love Languages. Needless to say, the book helped me understand myself and others better. It has certainly helped me love others better.

When I tied the knot with my husband 4 years ago, my understanding of the love languages has helped me appreciate and understand his love language. And I believe this has helped us towards a very fulfilling marriage. What about you? Do you know the love language of your spouse, your kids or even your own love language? Maybe you do and you just need a little review about them 🙂 Check out the video below.

What Makes Your Marriage Thrive?

Four years ago today, I said yes to a lifetime commitment. Today, my husband and I continue to build a marriage that satisfies us, that hopefully blesses others and one that glorifies God, the ultimate Author of marriages.

Reaching the state of our married life which I would say is a happy one has not always been easy. Along with the joys are the numerous adjustments, disagreements and yes, the weaknesses.  As for me and my husband, the following have helped us in our journey as a couple:

1. Acceptance and Contentment. Married life is certainly different when my husband and I were still dating each other. In the confines of our home, we see realities in each other that we do not know before. This is where acceptance and contentment comes in. It is also acknowledging that what we are and what we have is enough for each other 🙂

2. Understanding and adjustment. In reality, no relationship can survive without the involved parties seeking to understand and then to adjust to each other. Certainly, we see the importance of these two in marriage. Understanding and adjustment needs to be practised by both husband and wife, not just by one partner.

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3. Communication. For understanding to happen, there has to be communication. This was something that my husband and I had to really learn 🙂  For us to be understood we needed to make the effort to speak and to express what is on our minds and of course, make the effort to listen. And this is not  easy. It’s easier to shut off (this is usually my husband) or argue (that’s usually me!!) than to make the effort to really communicate 🙂

4. Humor. There has to be room for lots of laughter in marriage. My husband and I share jokes with each other. And when we find something funny online, we make a point to show it to each other. It takes away tension and stress 🙂

5. Faith in God. And last but not the least, what has made our marriage strong is our faith in God. I believe that if we only think of marriage as a commitment to each other, it would not be enough. A shared commitment to God, a joint faith in Him has been a necessary foundation for us. It has been essential for us in our journey as a couple.

Now what about you? If you are married, what has helped your marriage survive and thrive? 🙂

Kick Your Style Up a Notch with These Two-Color Lacing Techniques

One of the hottest trends right now is replacing boring white shoe laces with brightly colored shoe laces. Whether you prefer neon orange paired with neon green or rubine and royal blue, using two contrasting colors is a great way to put your own personal spin on this popular lacing trend. Here’s a quick how-to guide to help you kick your style up a notch.

Double Lacing
This technique interweaves two colored shoe laces and ends with four creatively tied lace ends.
1. Select two different colored laces that are each shorter than the original shoe laces. If your shoes have an odd number of eyelets one colored lace will need to be even shorter than the other colored lace.
2. Thread the first colored lace straight across the bottom eyelets.
3. Cross the ends over as you normally would, but skip the next set of eyelets and thread the lace ends through the third set of eyelets.
4. Repeat step three, threading laces through every other set of eyelets until you reach the top.
5. Thread the second colored lace straight across the second set of eyelets.
6. Cross the ends over, thread laces through the remaining eyelets.
7. Tie a double bow using both colors or tuck one set of laces inside the shoe and tie a single colored bow.

Angled Checker Lacing
The end result resembles lattice and forms a unique two-color checker pattern by weaving the colored shoe laces through one another. Flat, slender laces tend to work best for this technique.
1. Select a pair of sneakers with six sets of eyelets and two different colored laces for each shoe. For added flair, you could choose use the same color in each shoe for the first colored lace and choose different colors for the second colored lace. For example, weaving yellow and orange together in one shoe and yellow and purple in the other.
2. Thread the first colored lace halfway through the eyelet on the bottom left side. The two loose ends should be the same length.
3. Skipping two sets of eyelets, take both ends and thread them up diagonally through the third set of eyelets on the right side of the shoe.
4. Run the ends straight up through the inside of the shoe and push them out the next set of eyelets on the same side of the shoe.
5. Skipping two sets of eyelets, take both ends and thread them down diagonally through the third lower set of eyelets.
6. Repeat steps four and three, respectively.
7. Thread the second colored lace through the eyelet on the bottom right side. The two loose ends should be the same length as they were in step two.
8. Create a mirror image of the first colored laces by repeating steps two through six on the opposite sides of the shoe, weaving one of the second colored lace ends over and under other colored lace. The second end should weave under and over the colored lace.
9. Tuck the ends of the laces inside the shoe at the top.

Other Lacing Techniques
These are just a few of the many different ways that you can lace your shoes with two different colored shoe laces. Use your imagination to come up with even more styles!

And now, with coming events like the Halloween, Christmas, New Year, children and yes, even adults get pretty excited on what costume they should wear. This is also true, of course, when it comes to any upcoming themed parties. Many times, the desired costume for the night or for the day is one’s favorite hero. But what should you do if the costume is not available at your favorite shop or at the mall? And what if you would rather make one to save you some bucks as well as indulge your creativity?

Well, just simply check out the information below. Give it a try and let your kid or nephew walk out as the new Superman and yes, you can also walk out your front door as Catwoman, too 🙂

Courtesy of: welovecolors.com

June Weddings

The month of June came with the weddings of my hubby’s pretty nieces, Denden and Danica to their handsome grooms 🙂  And as families are expected in this part of the world, the hubby and I attended both weddings. Take note that in both weddings we were also assigned as secondary sponsors (we were cord sponsors).

For Denden’s wedding, we had to travel about an hour from Butuan City to be there. It was held at the church just beside the  house of Denden’s family; reception was held on a specially arranged area between their house and the church. Danica’s wedding, on the other hand, was held at a convention center in the city. Both the wedding ceremony and reception were held there.

As always, weddings make me smile. They always remind me that people in love always, always desire to make life-long commitments before God, family and friends 🙂 God bless the newly-wed couples!

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Denden & Albert together w/ the bride’s family.

 

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Danica & Rutchel w/ her mom & uncle (my hubby) and Rutchel’s mom.

Note: This post is also linked with BPC.